6 Things You Can Do to Make a Difference in Your Child's Life

As a parent I always wonder what makes a difference in my children’s life. Is it the family, the school, the friend who make the biggest difference?

How can I give my children the best start in life?

Some sociologists wondered about the same question and they had organised The Life Project which was summarised in an amazing book by Helen Pearson, The Life Project: the extraordinary story of our ordinary lives. The scientists have followed several cohorts of people from their birth to death to see what made some people happier, better off socially and economilcally as well as perform better academicly then others. 

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It’s amazing how small things make the difference at the end.  Here are top conclusions:

1)      Be cuddly and warm with your child.

Warmth and absence of hostility correlated with better development in babies more than anything else. Skin to skin contact is proven to have a range of psychological and physical developmental benefits.

2)      Reading to a child every day from a very young age is strongly correlated with good performance in school.

Reading with a child, teaching them songs and nursery rhymes, painting and drawing, showing them the alphabet and numbers, visiting the library, taking children on trips and visits – all these were associated with higher intellectual, social and behavioural scores as the children grew up.

3)      Talking and listening to a child.

When the children get older, talking to them about what they are learning at school, supporting homework, expressing ambitions for their future are all associated with improved academic achievement.

4)     Setting regular mealtimes and bedtimes.

Good and regular sleep and meals are correlated with better behaviour and cognitive development. 

5)      Authoritative discipline.

Having a parent who sets the limits is also correlated with better behaviour and brain development.  However, hush punishment as smacking leads to poor outcomes.

6)      Express ambition for your child’s future.

Inspiring your child and sincerely believing in your child abilities to have a great life leads to your child's confidence and desire to achieve.

So having a dinner all together as a family and having a chat first; then reading a book before going to bed (hugging) may ultimately be more productive than getting to a particular school. Worth a try!

anya abdulakh